Updated: Dec 17, 2020
This is for the women and men who have their shit together.
As in, everyone is bringing the same amount to the table... or at least what is expected from the other party involved. For the sake of this post, we will assume you all have a job (or it's agreed that someone is paying the bills), the house is being cleaned etc. and no one is a complete wreck. So on and so forth with a normal relationship, the beginning of one or hope to find what you are looking for.
Recently, I have come across too many people in relationships that love their other person but they are starting to wane. Drift in their feelings. Wonder if they are missing something else... someone else.
I am not a therapist, counselor, or end all to relationships. But, I am very curious. For the past 5 years I have made my own observations and study of what men and women want.
For the longest time I was just a hair shy of feeling misandry towards men. But now I have come to realize I just didn't choose correctly. So, for argument's sake, let's say everyone reading this is not an ass. And with this agreement, I will tell you all the secret.
Men: Women need to be desired.
Not just told we are pretty, or taken out from time to time. We want to 'feel' desire, ultimately by the man we chose. We want to know that you want only us... always. We have your children, our bodies change and morph into something no one recognizes for a time, we take care of everyone and are expected to remain the person you met; even after years of life alterations.
Remember and maintain the desire that you had or have. Look at us and treat us just as you did to get us to fall in love with you.
Women: Men need to be appreciated.
We as women, and even society, forever expect men to do it all. Ask us out, open doors, pay for dinner and drinks and wait a certain amount of time. In the relationship, they are expected to take care of the family, remember every day that we deem "special", buy us flowers on a whim, and it goes on and on.
Please appreciate the men that do.
One cannot be complete without the other. These are both things that can be accomplished very easily. Do not forget that we all have one life to spend. Find and keep the person that makes this one life happy and easy. Life is interesting, but I definitely cannot say that it is easy.
But... it IS easy to desire a woman that appreciates you, and it IS easy to appreciate a man that desires you.
Life is a rollercoaster of ups and downs... find your friend that makes the ride fun.